Why Quitting Isn't the Same as Giving Up: Knowing the Difference

I have quit many things in my life. This includes three start-ups, one salaried position, and one sport which I competed in competitively. I ached over each decision and some were easier to walk away from than others. All were still painful.

Notice I am using the word quit rather than give up though.

Why?

There is a signficant difference between the two and I want to highlight those differences here. They may sound the same. They may even look the same. But, the only attribute they share in common is that both involve ending something. Let's explore what makes them so different and we can start with providing clarity around their definitions:

What is Quitting?

I like to define quitting as choosing to end something intentionally when it no longer serves a need or purpose. This could be a company you created and your heart is no longer in it. It could be a dead marriage which has run its course. It could be a dead end job which no longer provides you purpose or joy. Again, quitting is a deliberate and strategic decision to move on to something better or more fulfilling.

What is Giving Up?

Giving up is different from quitting where it is your decision to stop trying or make effort even though you still want that something. For instance, you may have a goal to lose 30 pounds but your motivation is lacking and you give up after losing 8 pounds. The desire is still in your heart. The want is still there. You just lack the willingness to continue pursuing the goal. That is giving up.

Different Intentions

The main difference between quitting and giving up is the intention behind the decision. Quitting is a deliberate choice to end something because it no longer serves you. You do not need it. You do not want it. You are ready to move on even if it is painful letting go of what you built. Your intention is to move on. Giving up, on the other hand, is walking away from something you still want. The desire exists. The need exists. You are just not willing to put in the effort. Your intention is not about moving on but about lack of motivation.

Different Values

It is important to note that neither quitting nor giving up is inherently good or bad. Both decisions depend on the context and the individual's goals and values. For instance, it may be necessary to quit something to focus on more important things or to make a positive change. Conversely, giving up may be necessary if the goal you are pursuing does not fit your season of life. You may want to lose those 30 pounds but with juggling a job and three kids and a newborn this may not be the right season. You are not saying "No," you are just saying "No" right now.

Different Consequences

Since both quitting and giving up involve bringing an end to something both will produce different outcomes - positive and negative. Quitting can create positive consequences like a new beginning, a fresh perspective, and renewed energy. It can also have negative consequences like burning bridges, damaging one's reputation, or leaving unfinished business. The same is true for giving up. It can engineer positive outcomes like relieving stress or providing more awarenss of one's limitations. Those are then coupled with the negative consquences of missing out on potential opportunities or experiencing feelings of regert and disappointment.

Parting Advice

As we wrap up, I will leave you with this: whether it is quitting or giving up, the most important thing is to stay true to yoruself and your values. You know yourself better than anyone else so listen to your heart and mind and make the best decision for your season of life.